How to rekindle passion on Valentine's Day

Not all love relationships are meant to go the distance. Some romantic partnerships are destined to last as long as it takes to learn a valuable life lesson. Others wane gradually to show you how much you've changed, and your soul has grown and expanded.

If your love union is a bond that cannot easily be broken, it's natural to experience emotional changes that alter the habits, feelings and behaviour of both partners over time. When passion has dwindled, it takes patience, honesty and mutual intent to work at reigniting the spark again.

Not sure whether what you have is worth saving? A phone or SMS consultation with an experienced Psychic Network reader can be helpful in identifying the longevity potential of your relationship.

Practice emotional attunement

Rekindling relationship passion requires both partners to share the same romantic vision. You're not the same people as the star-crossed lovers you were at the start of your relationship. Family life, work stress, and personal issues have impacted on the emotional and intimacy levels of your once passionate connection.

A healthy love relationship that's solid and long-lasting comprises of two people who are in perfect emotional attunement with each other. When you're emotionally attuned with your partner, you're able to observe, empathise, understand, communicate, and see the world through their eyes. Being comfortable sharing your vulnerabilities, and being fully present is also essential for rekindling passion.

Encourage open communication by asking questions to show concern, and that you want to understand better. Practice active listening, and pay attention to non-verbal signs, such as body language, facial expressions, posture changes and an energy shift. Provide sincere validation to further encourage openness. Don't forget to thank your partner for being present in the sharing experience.

As you practice emotional attunement in sync, to create a deeper sense of connection, your partnership naturally becomes harmonious.

Prioritise intimacy

When you first started dating your partner, you couldn't get enough of each other. Over time, however, it's normal for intimacy to become an item that's added to your 'to-do list'. If you're serious about rekindling passion on Valentine's Day, it's vital that you make intimacy your top priority.

Intimacy is not solely about getting naked and having sex. Intimate moments like enjoying open, honest and deep conversation, and learning something new together can bring you closer than ever before.

Instead of giving your lover a quick peck on the lips or cheek, as a greeting or goodbye, linger for at least six seconds, to create a special moment of fully present connection. Additionally affectionate touch, like holding hands or hugging, releases feel-good oxytocin that causes you to experience a calming sensation. When your body lets go of stress and embraces relaxation, passion can follow.

Focus on yourself

If you no longer feel excited by or sexually attracted to your lover, rekindling passion may be an uphill struggle. Instead of deliberating what you expect from your partner, it's beneficial to focus on yourself. Examine how well you're doing at being the 'perfect' partner, and recognise any behaviours and habits that would benefit from tweaks, adjustments or major improvement.

Once you've identified your 'flaws' it's a good idea to learn to see your partner with fresh eyes. While excitement and attraction tend to fade as a relationship progresses through the various phases and stages of love, it's important to remember that you play an equal part in keeping the passion alive. If you honestly think that your lover is boring, consider your role in the connection. After all, a new person would find your mate attractive and fascinating just as they are!

Self-awareness gives you the clarity you need to see the true value of your relationship, and the motivation to invest time and effort in rekindling the passion in your romantic union.

Make a date

Many couples find that they have to schedule regular date nights just to be able to spend quality time enjoying each other's company. This Valentine's Day make a date to reconnect with your partner. No fancy restaurant required.

Take time out from home and work life responsibilities and be honest with each other about how you feel things are going in your relationship. Give each other time and space to communicate your wants and needs. If you still share the same values and vision, mutually agree to do whatever's required to give your partnership a second chance to become a stronger, lasting bond.

Commit to doing more spontaneous and exciting stuff as a couple, more regularly. Fun date nights that get you out of your comfort zone can reignite the spark that united you long ago. When you reimagine your relationship, and date each other as if for the first time, you can fall in love all over again.

Check in with a psychic

Whenever a relationship repeats a destructive pattern it's because one or both partners are ignoring signs that life lessons must be learned. A reading with a friendly and experienced Psychic Network reader can provide invaluable insights regarding the breaking of karmic cycles or blockages that keep you stuck in a relationship rut.

The guidance and information you receive in a psychic reading can also help you shift your perspective, and to understand what you need to do to rekindle relationship passion.